If the lesson in Julie’s recent blog, Say Yes to Help, (http://www.4broadminds.blogspot.com/2012/04/say-yes-to-help.html ) was that accepting help is good, today’s blog digs a little deeper into what it takes to surrender and admit you need that help.
A friend of mine likes to say, “You can make plans but you cannot plan outcomes.”
On Friday the 13th I had PLANS. Out of bed and on the computer by 5 a.m., outside before 6 for my morning walk, stop at 2 neighborhood yard-sales on my way back home, shower and leave for work by 7:30 a.m.
What I did not plan was tripping a few minutes into my walk and falling literally flat on my face.
If you know my history of broken leg bones, you can appreciate that the really good news is I did not break a bone. However, I can now tell you unequivocally, it not the best way to start the day when your face slams into concrete. When I got to a mirror 5 or 10 minutes after falling, my eyelid was already nasty shades of purple-blue and appeared to have a walnut stuffed under it. A sane person wiping the blood off her cheek might have said, “I probably need to call in sick for work and get medical help.”
What did I do? I called a coworker for a ride to work, because I was scheduled to teach a 3 hour leadership course and could not imagine letting them down, backing down on my commitment, inconveniencing someone to replace me—even though it was possible I had a head injury and looked, well, hideous. In my defense, at least I had the good sense to know it might not be wise to drive!
It took my husband, my boss and several coworkers to convince me to put my health first, go to Urgent Care and SURRENDER to the fact that I could not go to work.
Why do I find it so hard to SURRENDER?
I need to constantly remind myself, it is not weak to be vulnerable and accept help. No matter how much I hate disappointing others or reneging on a commitment, or want to think of myself as in control and unshakable, there are times I have to be humble enough to say, enough, uncle, I cannot do this, I give.
It is not weak to be vulnerable. In fact, it takes a lot of courage.
When is the last time you found the courage to be weak?