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Saturday, November 9, 2013


After a few hefty nudges from Jim, family, and friends— it dawned on me that it might be time to take a few deep breathes, put my Type A+ just-get-it-done life on pause . . . and celebrate the publication of CAPE MAYBE!

Putting life on slo-mo may sound easy-peasy, but if you know me, you know slowing down is not my strong suit.
The last two years have been a whirlwind of working with editors, rewriting, revising, proofreading, learning book design, self-publishing, social networking, book marketing, and in less than nine months publishing PEACE BY PIECE and CAPE MAYBE. Oh, and in between, I left one job and started another, because writing is NOT my day job, it’s my “hobby.”
To say I’ve spent more than a few days on fast-forward is an understatement, but Carol on fast-forward is nothing new. It hit me that it might be time to pause and take stock when I noticed others viewed CAPE MAYBE’S publication as a huge accomplishment while I treated it as one more thing checked off my long to-do list with so much more to do!  
It reminds me of a time about 20 years ago when I was a Human Resources Director in a four person H.R. Department. We were simultaneously doing the due diligence for a merger, closing one pension plan and creating another, installing a new payroll system, going through our annual employee benefits open enrollment—and all while our benefits coordinator was on leave. At a staff meeting the day after our near flawless payroll go-live, I said something like, “Go-live yesterday was almost perfect which means today we shift gears and focus full-force on the open-enrollment deadline, auditing the pension plan, blah, blah, blah  . . .”
My secretary meekly waved her hand, asking if instead of diving head first into the next projects, we could take a one day breather and celebrate bringing up a new payroll system and everyone getting paid right.
See? Carol on fast-forward—nothing new.
So, just for today--and if Jim has his way, tomorrow, and the next day(s)--I’m trying to put my over-achieving-self on pause.
It has been more than half my lifetime since the first time I said out loud that I wanted to write a book.
Just for today, I will try to pause and bask in the realization that after 15 years of writing and rewriting, in the last nine months, I have finished and published TWO!


  1. So, relax. Take a deep breath. Pat yourself on the back. Get a pedicure. And then - start the 3rd book! I can't wait!!!

    Julie V.

    1. Julie, laughing . . . A third book, no pressure there :)

    2. 2 of the 4 reviews on Amazon are asking for another!


  2. Congratulations! It is a huge accomplishment. But tell us - How does a type A unwind?

    1. So jasmine, after posting the blog, I backed away from the computer. Made homemade chicken soup, meatballs and a pot of gravy, brownies, racked leaves, lit our first fire in the fireplace and chilled with Jim finishing two books I'd been reading for a couple of weeks. Not exactly on freeze frame, but I didn't obsess about book marketing, and it felt good

  3. Well done Carol - you deserve to take it easy and just absorb what you've achieved. For most people writing just one novel will only ever be a dream. Take it all in and celebrate. Wishing you every success and here's to the next!

    1. Thanks Fran. I hope taking a few days "off" from marketing etc., will help me feel the glow :)

  4. Carol,

    I'm smiling, remembering that you were "retiring" just a year ago. And then you jumped into another job "part-time" (not really) and doing all the book stuff. I've heard about encore careers, but you are pushing the envelope.

    I've seen enough of your sunset photos to know that you do occasionally take a seat and enjoy the moment, and let's face it, cooking can be therapeutic especially if you are remaking your Mom's gravy recipe.

    This post shows that you area recognizing that it's time to downshift to A-minus type personality (never a B). Enjoy the sense of accomplishment for a well-lived 2013.

    We're all praying to the Amazon gods that book sales take off.

    1. Chris, yes, the beach is my "safe-zone" although, I even take work there!
      Your grading system reminds me that years ago when I was seeing a coach, he gave me a challenge. I could only get an A in coaching if I stopped working EVERY day for a week and went home to sit on my deck (without working) for a week.
      That was one hard earned A :)
      p.s. and from your lips to the Amazon god's ears :)

  5. Mary FrancesNovember 10, 2013

    Bravo, Carol!

    Your accomplishments inspire me. But I know the need to slow down and regroup, too. Cape May is definitely the place for that.

    So, breathe....and enjoy!

    1. Hi Mary, another friends posted on my FB page yesterday that if you're lucky enough to be a the beach, you are lucky enough.
      I am blessed to live in Cape May and am grateful for it everyday